Sympathy or Callousness

Is Torvalds attitude really that critical considering the Victorian times they were living in?
My frightened little singing-bird. […] I have broad wings to shelter you under. […] I will protect you like a hunted dove that I have saved from a hawk's claws." (3.257)
His attitude towards Nora could be considered honourable since clearly, his attitude is protective. but as the play continues his attitude is quite fake. I personally have no sympathy towards Torvald considering his attitude towards Nora throughout the play but then again it may be because of my modern views towards how a man is supposed towards his wife, but even accounting for all of these change in times he certainly does have some character flaws. Every term of "endearment" he calls his wife always has something belittling as part of it.

• “My little skylark”
• “My little squirrel”
• “My little singing bird”
• His constant desire to "guide" Nora and control her and how he refers to her as a child shows 
• the inequality present in their marriage which Torvald probably enforced but then again all of 
• that was popular during Victorian times. Another one of his character flaws would be his 
• hypocrisy. His so-called love for Nora somehow disappears right when he finds the letter.
 According to modern times, the way he reacted would be deemed immature and foolish and 

he'd be criticized in society since the act of taking a loan isn't such a big deal. But how about during Victorian times? Well, I think any excuses that can be made for Torvald's character are "thrown out of the window" per se since he goes against the essentials of the Victorian manhood. A man was supposed to take responsibility for his family and so, in this case, him blaming his life's sorrow on Nora is him showing his true nature which completely goes against his previous proclamations of undying love.

The list of his flawed characters does continue involving him constantly being self-righteous and judging characters as the play proceeds. insulting his own wife's father who is now dead with no sympathy for his wife or respect for the dead and so forth. His continuous disrespect to his wife and many more reasons show how even though he lived in a Victorian period and because of that some of our rubrics on judging what kind of man he was might be outdated, at the end of the day he does not live up to a man's expectations in marriage both during current times and Victorian times and that alone leads me to believe that he deserves no sympathy !